David DeAngelo had a excellent strategy to deal with flakes before you waste your time. I’ve had a model flake on me three times and now I realised I forgot my own friggen advice

So here’s the routine to sort the flakers from the rest:

Assume you got a number close during day game or night game. When you call the women to set-up the date start with a general comment about something that’s happening in Joburg, South Africa or where ever you may find yourself e.g. a new movie or some new album or whatever. Just make something up. The secret to rapport is to go first, a principal you find in hypnosis. So you have to tell her a story before you ask her something. This is also a basic form of leading from NLP.

So now you’re ready to set-up the “date” and you tell her something like this: “Hey I’m kind a busy today and tomorrow. Lets get together for a cup ‘o tea and some stimulating conversation on Saturday.”

Assuming she says yes, you move forward with “Ok, that’s great. So let me ask you this quickly…On a scale from 1-10 what’s the chances you’re going to flake and not show up?”

If she says anything else besides “No, I’m going to flake” you tell her “look we’re both busy so I’ll rather not meet up with you. Have fun, cheers!”

This is what you do when you want to ensure she makes a real commitment. Another thing you can do, which I learned from the master of bisexual relationships Rick H, is to set-up multiple dates like 3 or 4 at a time. That way you’re bound to have find with the group dynamics.

It may be worth reading this blog post I wrote a while ago about inviting out a woman you’ve just met.

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