When you meet a woman for the first time it’s very important you make it clear to her that you are NOT like all the other guys. More specifically you want her to know you are a man and not a wussy. It still surprises me how androgynous most men behave towards women they meet. Think about the last time you were at a bar or house party. Consider how you were introduced to a woman and you automatically stuck out your hand to shake hands like you in a business context.

Now there is nothing wrong with shaking hands per se but every other guy in the room has greeted this woman in the same manner. Instead think about how she greets her girlfriends…there is touching, kissing and a lot of physical contact. There is an instantaneous bond formed when you’re able to have some kino early on. Again think about how you strike up a posture, stick out your hand for the traditional handshake. I have even met guys who shake the hands of women like the would another guy i.e. they use a lot of force and pressure. Why men would go this far could have multiple explanations. However, my gut feeling is they are completely unconscious about their actions.

So what does it mean when you just do a normal handshake with a woman you’ve just met? Well it could mean that you are intimidated by her, you are unconscious about your behaviour and you are not sexually attracted to her or a host of other reasons. The short answer with body language is that it’s much more important to send the right signals instead of trying to read her signals.

So how should you greet a woman to ensure kino escalation?

1. Hug the woman instead of greeting her: When she is introduced to you by someone else, just look at her hand and say something like, “I don’t shake hands with women…” and proceed to open you arms. Allow her to move forward to hug you because if you move forward she may step back, which would put a damper on things for you.
2. Twirl her around: Imagine you’re doing a basic salsa move with her. Take her right hand with your left hand and proceed to turn her clock wise. This is a super sexy move because she will not see this coming and the spontaneous nature of this move will send all the right signals.
3. Kiss her on both cheeks: Maybe you have seen how girlfriends sometimes greet each other by kissing both cheeks. What I mean here is kissing her in this way to move directly into the comfort phase. Before you kiss her you should place your hands on both her shoulders.

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