Ok guys here is the first of a series I will post over here. I will start the boring stuff first, yet some of the most vital stuff we really ignore.

The first three basic needs we have are:

1. Air
2. Water
3. Light

1. Air ( Oxygen )

Somehow we miss the importance of breathing. We spend so much time worrying and therefore not breathing. We starve our brains of oxygen and even though we think that the air is polluted outside, the air is more clean than an indoor room, with or without air conditioning. People suffer more from house dust and allergic reactions causing sinusitus and with a blocked nose you are guaranteed bad circulation, irritability, poor erection and poor concentration. The brain uses 70 percent of all the air you breath to maintain its health. Getting outdoors is vital for your health. Even meditation helps teach you breath properly.

2. Water

Pure water is vital. If you are the one to grab a coke more than once or twice a week off the shelf then you are suffering with mood or weight problems. Try bottled water. I buy 5 litres at a time and it costs me R4 to refill the bottle every time. I drink a lot more water since I have started drinking purified water. Drinking water at the correct time maximizes its effectiveness on the Human body:

2 glasses of water after waking up
- helps activate internal organs
1 glass of water 30 minutes before a meal
- helps digestion
1 glass of water before taking a bath
helps lower blood pressure
1 glass of water before going to bed
- avoids stroke or heart attack

3. Light

We underestimate the power of sunlight and when we go outdoors we are permanently wearing sunglasses. All of us need sunlight to prevent joint diseases and to stimulate vitamin D. Recent studies show that the most important way of stimulating Melatonin ( A hormone that helps you sleep ) is sunlight entering the eyes. Notice how well you sleep after a day working outside in the sun. People who get little sunlight don’t sleep well or hardly sleep at all. Never use a sunblock with a factor higher than 15 or you are taking an artificial substance that
will cause blotches on the skin. If you are outdoors often, take a green food like Barley Green or Spirulina to keep the skin protected.
We will discuss the importance of green vegetables in a later chapter.

Lesson one done. Welcome to discuss any of the above contact me directly on 082 211 2619.

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1. MILKING IT: When stroking a guy’s dick don’t grab it like a bus rail and start jerking it like you were milking a cow. Don’t use the penis as if it’s a piece of gym equipment to strengthen the forearms. The male organ is a thing of wonder and beauty,and should be worshiped and held tenderly at all times.The sensitive part is at the top (where your face should be), not two-thirds of the way down.

2. LETHAL WEAPONS: A guy’s scrotum is a wondrous aesthetic achievement of nature to be treated gently. Don’t squeeze the balls like you are squeezing water from a sponge. If you have long nails pull them off with pliers before even looking at a guy’s ball bag.

3. ROBOTS: When sucking a guy’s dick don’t just get on the end of the thing and jam your head back and forward. It’s a beautiful instrument; it should be caressed, inspected, kissed and licked from every angle.

4. SILENT FRIGHT: If you’ve come and cannot be coerced to scream to show your appreciation, at least make some sort of sign to inform the guy that he’s done his duty and can blow his biscuits whenever he wants.

5. PHONE TURN-Off: Don’t put your mobile phone next to the bed and say: “I’m just waiting for a call from my hairdresser to confirm an appointment but we can carry on in the meantime.” Ringing bells might have turned Quasimodo on but not your average stud with 10 pints of lager inside him.

6. NO LAUGHING MATTER: Don’t laugh if your creative male lover gets carried away and says things like “Ride my hard cock you filthy cock-sucking slut” or “I want to rinse your mouth with my fresh, white love juice Laughter at any aspect of the male performance will not enhance it. Just be grateful you’ve got a guy who can speak whole sentences.

7. CLOSING UP: If a man is willing to take the trouble to come on your face, don’t close your eyes. He wants you to share this ecstatic moment of joyful union with him. Semen is not likely to cause permanent blindness in most cases – but this is a risk you should be prepared to take for his happiness.

8. POOR PRESENTATION: Presentation is all important.Don’t wait to be asked to get it doggy-style. Roll over and present. You know you love it.

9. HANGING AROUND: When he is done, you should not kiss and cuddle, he does not want to touch you. You should leave the bed and leave him in peace. If you are a one-night stand you should leave the premises with out Thieving anything or asking for a phone number.

10. BEING SHY: Always offer the Hershey Highway. You know you love It. If you don’t like it that much, still offer it as you can quite easily play with yourself as he rams away.

11. BEING A DRIP: You always have tissues in your bag, use them to clean his sheets and any ball bag drippage if you have misbehaved and not swallowed everything.

12. LACK OF MAINTENANCE: Never ask a man if he likes your body as you will force him to lie. Men don’t like fat chicks. Get in the gym and lose some weight and tighten those buns and thighs. There is no such thing as the perfect body. 99.6 per cent of men say that even Christy, Elle, Naomi etc all could still lose a few pounds – so what chance have you got?

13. CLOCK-WATCHING: Never, ever, ever, ever even think of saying: “Are you going to come soon.” If you’re doing a blowie, you’d have to take your mouth off to utter the question. If you’re giving a hand-job, you should have gone to the gym to work your biceps. Of he’s shagging you and takes more than 10 minutes you should be grateful. This is not a time trial but a blissful act of union between two sexually aware and gifted human beings.

14. FISHING FOR COMPLIMENTS: Don’t ask him if you’re the best lover he’s ever had. Most men have had so many sexual partners that it is unlikely that you are. Please don’t ask a man to lie about such an important thing.

15. PLAYING DEAD: Don’t just lie there, do something. Good sex is not a spectator sport and it helps if both parties move around a bit. I know you expect the men to do all the hard and skillful work. We don’t mind that and we’re blessed with the equipment and know-how to do it but at least put some effort into the act to show your appreciation.

16. BEING POSSESSIVE: If you are lucky to have an imaginative lover who can satisfy two women at a time don’t sneer at or reject his exciting suggestion that one of your friends joins you to make up a threesome. If he’s a real man he’s probably shagging her anyway. Plus you might learn something from her to keep your man really happy.

17. NOT KEEPING YOUR HAIR ON: Don’t shave all your pubic hair off. It makes your pussy look like a piece of poultry past its sell-by date. At best, it looks like the snatch of a ten-year-old. If you want to trim, go for a nice sexy racing stripe in the manner favours by the Playboy models that your man would rather be shagging.

18. SPITTING IT OUT: When a man has gone to so much trouble to ejaculate and get his aim right into your mouth, it is rude to spit it out without savouring the taste and gluey texture. You should play with semen like a block of Hubba Bubba, blowing bubbles, chewing and throwing from side to side. A line like “I love it when you come in my mouth” makes for a happy finale to fun and games.

19. INGRATITUDE: Never forget to thank a man for all the effort and energy he has expended on making love to you – especially if a) sex has lasted more than five minutes and/or b) you managed to achieve an orgasm. A man’ s role in sex is far more demanding than a woman’s so it is always nice when one’s prowess is appreciated.

20. SEEKING FAVOURS: Never contemplate taking advantage of your man’s warm after-sex glow to seek favours or make requests. As he drops off into well-deserved slumber, resist the urge to ask :”Do you think I should buy that dress/skirt/sofa/Mercedes/country cottage?” there is a name for the practice of mixing sex with material gain – prostitution.

21. BED-RIDDEN: Too many women fail in bed because they insist on being IN BED. Very few countries have statutes limiting horseplay to a designated room. Let yourself go with some sex in the study, bonking in the bathroom and kinkiness in the kitchen. If you’re lucky, your man might imagine he’s bonking someone sexy and adventurous and he might manage a larger, harder erection.

22. SHARING NOT CARING: Whilst it is understandable that you would be excited after receiving a mouthful of cum, do not be thoughtless in expressing your gratitude by kissing your man on the lips. YOU like semen, HE doesn’t. Be considerate, please.

23. BEING NAKED: Very few female bodies are good to look it so please make an effort to cover up as much as possible with exotic lingerie. Match the outfit to suit your bod. If you’ve got a half-decent ass but no tits for example, wear stockings and suspenders and cover your meagre mammalia with something silky.

24. TOO BRIGHT: If the man switches the light off, it is for a reason, so please don’t insist on seeing what’s going on. If he’s got a bit of a beer belly or a lovebite from a bonk earlier that day, it is his right to keep such matters to himself. If he wants it dark so he can imagine he’s shafting Natalie Imbruglia, please understand this fascinating aspect of the male psyche.

25. PLAYING THE NAME GAME (1) Never embarrass a gentleman by challenging him to remember your name after he’s shagged you. If he thought it was important to remember your name, he would have.

26. PLAYING THE NAME GAME (2): Don’t be angry if you’re lover shouts out another woman’s name during the sexual act. Men have much more complicated lives than women and deal with many more people at work, football club, gym, pub, etc. It’s probably just a close associate and totally innocent. Of course, he might be shagging someone else in his spare time and it is understandable that he should make such an obvious mistake.

27. KEEPING HIM WAITING: Don’t get him all turned on and the let his proud stiffy whither while you go to the bathroom and tone and moisturise every square centimetre of your body. The male erection can be sensitive to 45-minute delays while you go off to make yourself look presentable. If you must follow a strict beauty regime, do it after he’s shot his load and has started to snore.

28. TOOTH ACHE: When we ask you to eat our cock, this should not be taken literally. I know it’s hard to resist but keep the tooth action to a little nibble now and again.

29. YOU CAN’T HURRY, LOVE: If a woman is serious about good oral sex as part of foreplay, 20 minutes is the bare minimum required to give the subtle and complex penis a reasonable working over. Better allow for 45 minutes at least.

30. TWO DIMENSIONAL: It’s not enough to be a specialist – even in the important skill of fellatio. To be regarded as a successful woman in bed you must have a full portfolio of tricks. These should include a penchant for facial glazing and a familiarity with idiosyncrasies of your man’s anal region.

31. CAMERA SHY: If he wants to capture the beauty that is you during those special moments (so he can remember the bits he missed because he was drunk), help him by posing in a gorgeous, pouting way for the camera or video camera.

32. UNSWEET SMELL OF EXCESS: While men are more than happy to lick the pink clam, please give it a bit of a wash once or twice a week. You can have too much of a good thing.
33. OBSESSIVE: The female orgasm is over-rated so don’t spoil everybody’s fun by insisting on having one every time you have sex. Of course, if you do have lots, you should feel free to announce them.

34. PERIOD PAIN (1) : It’s natural for a woman to beg for a good seeing to but please do not a) pretend your period has finished or b) that it hasn’t even started. Just go without and let your man catch up with his fantasies about your friends, his young and pretty work colleagues and the girls he shagged before he met you.

35. PERIOD PAIN (2): Having said that (above), just because you’re on the blob, it doesn’t mean his natural and healthy urges have gone away. Don’t put sex off limits for the duration of your period. Use this special time together to work on your oral and massage techniques.

36. THE BIG SWITCH (OFF): Nothing is worse than giving a man some encouragement and then not finishing the job. Such encouragement might be the slightest brush against any part of his body. So if he’s got a stiffy, you’ve got to deal with it and take things through to their natural conclusion.

37. WAKE-UP CALLER: Men have busy and demanding schedules so please understand if he should occasionally (say three times a week) fall asleep while on the job. You should take it as a compliment that he feels so relaxed.
38. COVER UP: If you have lured a man to bed under the guise of being a sultry temptress with long eyelashes and painted lips, please keep the illusion going until he has discharged his porridge gun or fallen asleep. If you care about him, you will make sure he never discovers the terrible secret hidden beneath your caked-on make-up.

39. PUTTING A DAMPENER ON THE EVENING: Don’t make a fuss about sleeping on the damp patch. If God wanted men to sleep on the messy remains of coitus he would have given us a snatch.

40. TV SINNER: The only TV programs suitable for accompanying good sex are hardcore porn (especially involving yourself) or a football match. No gardening or knitting programs to be watched.

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The world of internet dating can be fraught. But, for a fee, a ghost writer will rewrite your online profile with the promise of making you more attractive to others. How does it work?

These modern-day cupids are popping up across the internet. They specialise in ghost writing witty, charming, flirtatious messages on behalf of single men and women unwilling, unable or too busy to do it themselves.

“We’ve noticed a definite trend with more and more of these companies springing up- and there is a huge demand,” says Mark Brooks, editor of Online Personals Watch, a site that tracks internet dating trends.

Clients usually come to these online-dating outsourcing companies because their own attempts to find love in cyberspace just aren’t getting results. Many want to avoid the rejection they feel when their lovingly-crafted messages go unanswered.

“Necessity is the mother of invention,” says Evan Marc Katz, who has worked as a dating coach since 2003 and runs e-cyrano.com, one of the first of this new breed of companies. “There are a surprising number of people out there who don’t know how to market themselves in an original way.”

He stresses that his clients are not losers, but are typically successful, professional and well-rounded people. So what qualifies someone to set themselves up as a dating expert?

“I did online dating myself for years with great success and I worked as a customer-care representative for an online dating company,” says Mr Katz, who is now happily married.

Every date brings financial rewards for the ghost writers, who compare themselves to salesmen, telemarketers and, in some cases, poets. Some offer their services in a range of languages.

Working for a set fee, the companies interview their clients at length over the phone. Using this information, they then write the initial “sell”, the blurb which online daters use to advertise themselves. Many also provide tips and advice on how to optimise your appeal to fellow daters.

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David DeAngelo had a excellent strategy to deal with flakes before you waste your time. I’ve had a model flake on me three times and now I realised I forgot my own friggen advice

So here’s the routine to sort the flakers from the rest:

Assume you got a number close during day game or night game. When you call the women to set-up the date start with a general comment about something that’s happening in Joburg, South Africa or where ever you may find yourself e.g. a new movie or some new album or whatever. Just make something up. The secret to rapport is to go first, a principal you find in hypnosis. So you have to tell her a story before you ask her something. This is also a basic form of leading from NLP.

So now you’re ready to set-up the “date” and you tell her something like this: “Hey I’m kind a busy today and tomorrow. Lets get together for a cup ‘o tea and some stimulating conversation on Saturday.”

Assuming she says yes, you move forward with “Ok, that’s great. So let me ask you this quickly…On a scale from 1-10 what’s the chances you’re going to flake and not show up?”

If she says anything else besides “No, I’m going to flake” you tell her “look we’re both busy so I’ll rather not meet up with you. Have fun, cheers!”

This is what you do when you want to ensure she makes a real commitment. Another thing you can do, which I learned from the master of bisexual relationships Rick H, is to set-up multiple dates like 3 or 4 at a time. That way you’re bound to have find with the group dynamics.

It may be worth reading this blog post I wrote a while ago about inviting out a woman you’ve just met.

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Be proactive, treat it like a job search, says author Rachel Greenwald

YOU THOUGHT YOU had a great date and made a connection, and that he would be calling to set up a second date. Then…nothing. No call, no e-mail, no text. You ask yourself, “What did I do wrong? Why didn’t he call back?”

Author, matchmaker and dating coach Rachel Greenwald embarked on a 10-year research project to decipher this puzzle. She conducted in-depth “exit interviews” with 1,000 single men, asking them why they called back one woman, but not another.

The results are in her book “Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love…Or Never Call Back.”

Greenwald doesn’t believe you will find the love of your life by waiting for that person to appear in line at a grocery or to sit next to you in a bus.

This Harvard MBA and New York Times best-selling author advocates a better way—being proactive and approaching one’s dating life like a job search.

“Sure, there has to be an intersection of luck, timing and opportunity to find love,” she says in her new book. “But you increase your odds when you do something about it. If you have a strategic organized plan, something will come through faster.”

So what should this plan be?

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Recently a guy asked sent me the following email:

“I have been making good progress in pick up, i have worked the confidence and can open and have a set routine. Problem is, I need some better, more quality openers. I also end up getting the ladies attention and then struggle to keep the convo going, or more importantly, get her to keep the convo going with me. Does anyone have any routines that i could use or tips on how to overcome this setback? So basically im looking for easy openers, routines, and any other tips.”

The most basic step is to ensure you are comfortable having conversations with anyone you meet on a daily basis. So when you’re putting petrol in your car, have a conversation with the guy doing that; when you buying something from a shop, have a conversation with the woman behind the counter.

You should never limit your “practise” conversation to attractive women. This will limit how quickly you are able to make progress. Ultimately you want to break through any barriers from your “society programming” as Bad boy calls it. Reading books will not help you in this one. You actually have to have real conversations with women and men out there in the real world, not online.

So a suggestion I made before to accelerate your game is to join a Toastmasters club. This is one of the best ways to practise a variety of skills and get feedback after each speech you make.

Maybe another suggestion is to meet up once a week with a group of guys from this forum and practise word association games, like making up a story one word at a time. There is no such thing as practising spontaneous conversation except to go out there and talk to people.

Another good location to do this is at a flea market. At such a place you can talk to the stall owners, and you talk to the other people who’re shopping around for bargains.

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This is another sweet comedy video clip from my friend Khaya Dlanga, Africa’s Youtube king! Follow Khaya Dlanga on Twitter but I wont lead you anywhere. Be warned, I tweet a lot

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David X is a seduction guru or dating coach from Montreal, Canada. He first came into wide prominence because he was featured on the David DeAngelo Mastery Series and later recorded another in Double Your Dating Interviews with Dating Gurus. Anyway I have been greatly influenced by his attitude alone. And now that I have extended an invitation for him to join me in South Africa, it’s simply a matter of time before you can also meet and interact with him.

David X Rules To Live By

1 – Don’t care what she’s thinking! That doesn’t mean don’t try to understand women in general, it means don’t care what a specific chick is thinking at any specific time. Just don’t care. If you do, you’ll be thinking for 2 people while she may very well be thinking for nobody. Just let it go. What you may be thinking about what’s on her mind is ONLY what you think is going on, most likely totally wrong anyway. Stop thinking what she’s thinking and stop thinking FOR her. You’ll end up with less worries, have twice the brainpower available for yourself, and will come across as more direct and powerful.

2. Don’t forget rule #1

3. Follow through. That means, if you say you’re going to do something, do it. If you get her worked up over something you are going to do with or to her, follow through. If you don’t follow through, women will hate you for it.

4. Have control. Keep control. You either have control or you don’t. And if you have control, you can either keep it or not. So when you have control, keep it.

5. Make rules and stick to them. These are YOUR rules. Things like “I don’t tolerate no-shows.” or “I’ll say something ONCE – I do not repeat myself.” Don’t be afraid to tell chicks your rules as long as you know you won’t break those rules in front of them. Most guys don’t have any rules so you will, at minimum, set yourself apart. ( note: this means you may need to think what your rules actually are )

6. Don’t break your own rules, ever. Once you break one of your own rules in front of a chick, you will begin lose control of your situation with that chick.

7. Have a structure and stick to it, no matter what. Be consistent. This also relates to having a set of rules and sticking to it.

8. When part of your structure doesn’t work consistently, analyze that part, figure out why it doesn’t work, and repair just that part. Don’t replace your whole structure just because one aspect of it doesn’t work right. Fix just that part and keep improving your structure over time.

9. Be aggressive and direct when initially approaching chicks. Don’t beat around the bush. Chicks don’t have a clue why you’re there – tell them. Just don’t be crude about it.

10. Don’t lie, but you don’t have to give them the whole truth, either. Never lie to a chick – it’s not worth it. The truth is always better and it’s easier to remember. “The best lie is the truth.”

11. Be decisive and lead. Chicks need to be lead. They don’t want an indecisive pussy. Don’t say, “I don’t know… what time is good for you?” Say “I’ll be there at 6 O’clock. Meet me then.” Don’t be afraid to be a little late. They hate it when you’re early and hate you even more when you’re right on time. Make them wait a bit. They will respect you. If they disrespect your time, drop them.

source: Fast Seduction

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Need some advice for dating this holiday season? Lea Haben is a relationship coach who claims this time of year is one of the best for singles.

That’s in part because there are so many holiday parties and social engagements that arise in the month of December, increasing your odd of finding someone special.

Haben has 5 tips for holiday dating:

1) Parties Galore: Attend all parties you are invited to and make sure that you go with your friends to their parties as well. You will have the chance to expand your social network and blind date opportunities at the same time. Go to all parties such as: Work, friends, family, church etc… Who knows Mr. Right could be waiting for you under the mistletoe!

2) Flash your smile: When you smile at people, you make them feel good by acknowledging their very existence. Men will approach you if they feel you are interested enough to acknowledge them. Smile and make eye contact for 4 seconds. By doing this, your smile conveys that you are friendly and open to conversation.

3) Look Your Best: Make your first impression a lasting impression. While everyone else is wearing the little black dress choose a beautiful jewel toned dress in either green, red, or blue. Make sure that the dress you wear makes you feel attractive. Their is nothing sexier than a woman who feels pretty. Tips to look for are flattering color, great fit and a style that flatters your body type. Remember look good and feel great!

4) Be Friendly and Outgoing: When you go out, please be warm and friendly. Body language is everything–don’t fold your arms, lean against the wall or hide in the kitchen. Stand front and center and introduce yourself to everyone. If you are to shy to do that on your own have the host or hostess introduce you to everyone. Put a smile on your face and think happy thoughts as people are naturally drawn to attractive happy people.

5) Keep Expectations Realistic: Be realistic with your expectations of any event you attend. You might meet some great new people, or not. But that doesn’t keep you from having a good time and making the most of what is available. Attitude is everything, make a point of enjoying every event regardless of the outcome. Happiness is a choice and your chances of meeting Mr. Right go up substantially if you are happy. If the party isn’t what you expected, enjoy the people who are there. Once again, you just never know who might be the connection to the partner of your dreams.

source: ABC15

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Today I decided to remove some dating coaches listed on my dating advice blog. The other two that remain are people I have worked with, and I’ve seen them in action, and we have had our ups and downs and worked through it. Essentially the two removed turned out to have their own issues and hang-ups they could not yet overcome. And therefore I cannot vouch for their integrity with coaching clients. Warren Buffet has 3 criteria for buying a company when reviewing the current owners:

1. He has to know them (meet in-person)
2. He has to like them (have some things in common)
3. He has to trust them (honesty, integrity, track record)

Without these 3 points above it’s really difficult to establish and conduct long term relationships with men or women, friends or sexual partners.

Read more about our dating coaches here…

To hire me as your coach for 1 hour, 1 day or 1 weekend go here…

My results are guaranteed and if you are not happy I offer a 90 day money back guarantee. References from male or female clients available on request to protect their privacy.

After years of checking and rechecking my own calibration I now see through all most bullshit. So always look for congruence and consistency with anyone you are seeking advice from whether it’s regarding romantic relationships or business coaching.

Finally it’s more important that you’re faithful rather than being successful. Call me today on 074 124 1696 with all and any questions.

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